1. Everything happens for a reason

Cliché, I know. I hated the sound of it too, especially since I’ve poured so much effort and faith into the process. At the same time, there’s no reason for me not to believe it. Whether it’s a sign of being protected, or that something better is coming (and it did!). If embracing this notion was enough solace for me to get back up, I’m taking it. 

2. The biggest breakthroughs are on the other side of the pain

Earlier that week, I was listening to Vanessa Lau’s podcast with Michelle Saya about imposter syndrome. Their take on breakthroughs encouraged me to stay firm on my ambition. Quoting Michelle: “A lot of people give up right before the breakthrough.” 

They mentioned how these tough situations are like “tests” from the universe, from God, or whichever divinity you believe in. A test on our resilience, faith, and willingness to find solutions. If you can hang in just a little longer to “pass these tests”, the rewards are often greater than you expected. 

3. Stop being so attached to the outcome

I can be an extremely idealistic person. When I have a goal I want to achieve, I’m all in. This can be both a gift and a curse. On the more positive note, I tunnel vision into my destination and get really focused. A curse in the sense that I put all my eggs in one basket with the risk of breaking them all – I shatter like broken eggshells too. 

That’s why with each failure, I’ve come to realize that while it’s great to be goal-oriented, it helps to not to be too dependent on the outcome too. 

4) Enjoy the process

Following up on the previous point, this one is about balancing our perspectives. The outcome is still important to me, but the process of getting there should be just as, if not more valuable. 

Whether it’s applying for more jobs, scholarships, or to reach an ideal state of health, let’s try to be more present in the process. Let’s make the process somewhat of a rewarding outcome itself.